How to Soothe and Calm a Crying Baby

Isn’t it the best feeling cuddling your little one? However, let’s be real—there are times when you just have to put them down. And, oh boy, the waterworks begin! It’s as if your baby has a radar that instantly activates as soon as they’re placed in a crib or on a playmat.

Whether you’re trying to sneak in a moment for a bathroom break or make a quick sandwich, it’s enough to leave any parent feeling frazzled when their baby cries every time they’re put down. But worry not! Let’s uncover why this happens and how to ease those moments.

Why Does My Newborn Cry When Put Down?

It’s perfectly normal for newborns to wail when you set them down. Here’s why:

Seeking Closeness

Babies adore being near their caregivers. Of course, they do! The warmth of the womb and the soothing rhythm of your heartbeat is something they’re accustomed to. It’s no wonder they’re most content in your arms; it fulfills their innate need to form a secure bond with you. This physical closeness is fundamental for their developmental journey.

The Startle Reflex

Ever noticed your baby jolt awake with wide eyes after being gently placed in their crib? The startle reflex, also known as the Moro reflex, is responsible. It’s a reflex motion causing babies to stretch out their limbs suddenly. This reflex is a phase; it will usually diminish after a couple of months.

Fussy Phases

Newborns are well-versed in fussing. You might feel like your baby cries more often than not, without rhyme or reason. Welcome to the club! Sometimes, they experience what we call «purple crying,» which involves relentless, intense crying spells. During this time, even the best cuddles might not seem enough.

Experts call it the «baby witching hour,» something many babies go through, particularly in the evening.

Older Babies and Their Reluctance to Be Put Down

Your older baby might also protest being set down, and here are a few reasons why:

Separation Anxiety

Around eight or nine months, separation anxiety can hit. Your baby realizes you’re leaving, even if it’s simply stepping into another room. Practicing short breaks can help ease this worry. Reassure them that you’re coming back, and gradually extend the time away.

Learning to Self-Soothe

Some babies naturally struggle with calming themselves. If they’re used to being rocked or fed to sleep, placing them down can wake them up. Teach them the art of self-soothing by establishing a calming bedtime routine and putting them down while they’re still drowsy but awake.

Effective Strategies to Help

Want to make the transition smoother? Give these a try:

• Wrap them up in a swaddle. Many babies feel secure when snugly wrapped, helping to reduce the startling effect of the reflex.
• Use a baby carrier. Keeping your baby close while freeing up your hands? It’s a win-win!
• Consider a swing or bouncer. These mimic comforting motions and can be calming for your baby.
• Call in reinforcements. Don’t hesitate to ask friends or family for help to give you a much-needed break.
• Try sleep training. By six months, most babies can learn self-soothing techniques that aid them in sleeping independently.

Certainly, every baby is unique, and what works for one might not for another. Patience and persistence are key.